There are questions that ladies ask "Boo" . G. You can not ignore and you must answer. My G . everytime she ask this kind of question! Just know you about to get in a baseless arguements, believe me you gonna get hot mate! You gonna get hurt!!!
If she says "sweety,the blue or white jean which would you prefer I wear today"?
G.! Pls! Becareful,she already know what she wanna wear Bro!
My neighbor just had a serious arguement with his girl just now. It was so funny when it started,but by the time it ended no one was laughing. I was there when she asked him if she can make spaghetti and he said yes, then she said "don't worry I will make the time she use to bring to your office" .My friend shouldn't have asked the most logical question "who are you talking about"? But he did . What came out next closed the football match at half time!
Madam, if you like him and you don't know how to let him know.please! Walk up to the dude and say something. You have not commited any crime against anyone. You can not come and kill yourself for nothing o!
The inevitability In Ageing can never be over emphasized. Many women today, invest a fortune just to see their body remain young. Worst still , most people even prefer to go through extreme measures just to play a fast one on nature as the case might be. Women these days, the ones in their late forties and fifties run rampage in their ambitious voyage against time. From one anti-aging cream to another, from one surgical procedure to another. All in the quest to remove any sign that may depict ageing on their bodies whatsoever . While some prefer to go under the knife for some procedures , others pick the options to lift up Olympus that has long fallen. This very pursuits of vague happiness has been made even easier with the help of modern technology in the field of medicine.
However, the sudden urge to having a perfect body is suddenly on the trend. Millions upon millions of dollars continue to go in and out of this new found elixir. Worst still is that, the young ladies are not left out of this madness. Many young women in this generation can hardly be comptempted with their natural beauty. Nothing is real anymore with the recent upgrades in makeup kits, that unequivocally cast spells on any man , is nothing but mundane . This very illusion of elixir, the holy grail for modern women today may be regarded as madness by many today. Most researches done, has proven that the money for maintaining the aftermath of any surgical procedure is mostly expensive than the surgery itself . How ironic is it, that no matter how long one keep nature out, nature always win eventually. She is patient, she waits until you are done with every shenanigans and then she takes over.
One maybe, right to say that it is perhaps regrets that make women venture into this illusion of elixir ,hoping they could just turn back The hands of time and do the things they never had the opportunity to do.
The life is no longer about yesterday ;but today, no longer about today; but now. A wise man once said “life is what you live now, as you wait for other things to come”. When Age comes, make room, she has come to stay against your will. Embrace her, she is the representation of time, and any time spent, can never be gotten back. Instead, embrace her, welcome her and just flow. Ageing is beautiful when you accept it.
Someone once said, that when the man downstairs is up, the man upstairs goes to sleep. A man maybe hopelessly in love and yet cheats on his partner. A man May necessarily not be in love to indulge in the act of sex, while on the other hand, it is uncommon for a woman to indulge in the act of sex without feelings attached. Many will agree with the regular school of thoughts that depicts that, “men fucks, women make love”. Most men believe that sex and relationship are two very different parallel line that do not meet. Majority of women can only believe otherwise . Most Women can hardly indulge in the act of sex without feelings. Which explains why they are so emotional about almost anything. Men May just call it “random sex” while women call it “love making” and that why most women can easily state it and call it “cheating” without most women knowing that love May not be behind the reason he sleeps with another
woman. This premise is mostly difficult to explain however, as it further mystify many women today. Very few women can look beyond a “ cheating “ partner.
The million dollar questions, that many women in the world today ask every time issues like this arise. women find it strange, disappointing to believe. The most logical series of questions they asked when in this kind of predicament are often “if he loves me like he claimed, then why does he cheat”? If he cares about me, then why will he go that far to hurt me ? If he truly loves me and respects me, why did he sleep with my friend ,why would he stoop so low as to sleep with our maid. He never loved me, if he ever did, why my sister ,why my cousin ”.well, countless times we have seen things like this, heard this statements like this in a serious fight between two partners, serious arguments between two people or partners. A deep fight that exudes so much pain and excruciating disappointment. As difficult as it sounds and as crazy as it is; mundanely hard to believe. Men are naturally polygamous in nature. Regardless of the fact that men “cheat” sometimes and can not even explain why.
As a matter of fact, cheating many times comes as result of a relationships being one sided or lingers on one leg. How well does she know her man. Many relationships today are one sided,while some have long ago hit the rock. In courtship, before the vows, the man showers so much love on you, so much affections on you, he does everything and anything just to please you ; women often are easily carried away by all these gestures to the extent they completely forget about who their man really is, what he truly likes and not like. Is he the moody type, what are his true hobbies and not just the ones he tells to please you, ones you discovered yourself,his true character ,without anything obstructing your judgement about this guy, being brutally honest with ones self.
Nevertheless, there are also few loose ends when it comes to women. Many times over as this also mystifies many married man today. Like the common saying “when a woman gets married, she automatically stops trying” .Remember, something attracted him to you and you guys got hooked. Let it be your mission to master whatever it is that attracted him to you in the first place, do not make it a thing of the past. Was it your beauty, was it your mind, how were you looking then, that you look nothing like now. Many often say that a lot has changed we have kids now, yes you do! What a man want sometimes is to see that you are trying, trying to do better not to forget him. Men love attention,try as much as you can to master your holds on him. It’s tough, but with God you can.
Furthermore, one must not forget that Men are naturally moved by sights and women by words. For women, the words are expected to be turned into actions before it becomes mature to manifestations. In a relationships the both party must learn to master the act of communication however. You must constantly talk to one another. Times will come, storms will arise, misunderstandings will come, but when they come, make sure you communicate even in the midst of all the storms and huddles of troubles, fight in your relationship. The reason why many fights becomes so horrendous many times when partners have a fight, simply because when fight comes the sense of communication automatically shuts down. Fights are suppose to further strengthen your relationship not destroy it. Fight is an energy ,energy not well controlled can damage much more; than can be fixed. Very few people undermine the ability to fight and communicate at the same time, it strengthens any relationship. Fights in relationships are inevitable.
Many research has proven that in a woman's desperation to settle down she hide so many vices that she was not suppose to hide in the first place. However, in marriage she is made to pay the penalties by condoning what she is not suppose to condone. To keep a man can be very stressful, it is energy consuming, it is like picking a wild animal and trying to teach it a new game. In the teaching him, in teaching him, you must put in mind his ego. A man’s ego is like a pressed disaster just waiting to occur, you must be very careful not to step on that land mine. Eventually when the time comes your investments on him will grow eventually. Be gentle with him ,be patient with him, respect him. You as his woman must have it in your mind that putting anything above him May not be healthy . Eventually you will have a smooth sail.
The Nigerian government in it’s fight against the abuse of drugs and hard substance among the youth today, May have become tantamount to nothing. More than ever, the spectre is aggravated and formidable; as it rampage the affairs of the daily life of many youths in the northern parts of the country. According to Mr Olarewaju Ipinimisho,former DG of the NDLEA . He disclosed that Kano,Jigawa,Kaduna,Borno and lately Niger, are among states with the highest cases of constant drug abuse in thecountry.
Furthermore, he said “if you take an estimate of 10boys particularly in Kano, 7 out of the boys will be on one form of drug abuse or another”. The problem in these areas mentioned above can quickly spread to other parts of the North, if all hands are not on desk.
Trending within the circle of many youths today is, the party is never complete if Mr Codein and Co. is not invited “life of the party” as it’s formally called by the youths of this present generation. Worst still, research has also proven that 5000 bottles of Codein syrup is consumed on a daily basis in Kano and Jigawa respectively.
According to World Health Organization (WHO), substance abuse is the harmful or hazardous use of psychoactive substances, including alcohol and illicit drugs.with the estimate of about 76.3 million people struggle with alcohol use disorders contributing to 1.8 million deaths per year.
More so, the United Nations reported that around 185 million people globally over the age of 15 were consuming drugs by the end of the 20th century. No wonder it is said that Drug addiction, no doubt, has distressing and extremely awful consequences on the society. Violence, social deviance, mental disorders, upsurge in crime, corruption; destruction of individuals, erosion of societal values, undermining of national economies and premature death are some of the consequences of drug addiction.
Aisha, a Corper posted to Niger state for the Youth Service Corp (NYSC ) In 2017 batch. Through some of the rich spoilt kids,she was introduced to the so called codein and other harmful substance . She was found on the street completely helpless and could hardly make a complete sentence, neither could she stand by herself without any help. Worst still,she could hardly made it to the rest room without already messing up herself. It Was a near death situation when she was found on the street on the streets of Minna,Many thought she was mad,others claimed she had being used for rituals.By the time series of tests was carried out on her,it was confirmed by the doctors that she had being exposed to extreme substance and drugs abuse. According to her parent they said “she was better, even though she can hardly recognize anyone. Aisha,if she was not restless then she is standing in one particular spot just stairing at one particular direction,it can be scary at times and could take countless hours. Halocination the doctors call it . Even worst is that, Aisha had her hands and her legs chained to a metal just to restrict her from injuring herself or wondering off. There are thousands of young boys and girls going through the same predicament.Many amongs them wonder around the street or even worst dead.
Year in and year out we have heard the authorities claim to do something about the porosity of these substances on the streets. One will agree with me that it is only a theory that is always watered down. After several noise in the House of Assembly about what to do to save the situation and provide a lasting solution to this menace destroying the life's of our youths in the country.Eventually the flame of the matter dies out again.One among the many solution will be to tackle the unemployment issues in the youth sector.
Tackling the problem of unemployment in the country is relevant to reducing the menace of drug addiction among the youth in our society. According to a recent World Bank statistics, youth unemployment rate in Nigeria is 68%, but realistically, 80% of Nigerian youths are unemployed with secondary school graduates mostly found among unemployed rural population accounting for about half of this figure, while Universities and Polytechnic graduates make up the figure. What seems to be more worrisome is the fact that the nation’s Universities and Polytechnics continue to churn out more than 150,000 graduates both Bachelor’s degrees and Higher National Diploma annually and job creation has been inadequate to keep pace with the expanding working age population. Thus, idleness among youth could easily make drug addiction a fascinating option. The government have a major role to play in downsizing the further damages of this epidemic in our country. More So,parents have a major role to play also, must understand the importance of looking after their children. In their chase after economical values in the society they must also create time,spend time with their children. It is very important to inculcate moral values in the life of their children as this is the only way the society can be free from the menace of drugs and substance abuse.
Similarly, public enlightenment campaigns on the harmful effects of drug addiction must be stepped up by relevant government agencies, NGO, Faith Based Organizations, community leaders, traditional rulers, etc. Ignorance remains a major factor in drug addiction and so relevant stakeholders must continue to enlighten the youth on the evils of drug addiction and trafficking. Indeed, schools could include drug related issues in their curriculum. It is imperative that younger ones are taught the dangers that drug addiction pose to their health and future.
The unassumed horrors that cascades down upon the society, shinning its lights, while the rest of us is forced to hide.To hide behind the anguish of this formidable enemy that continue to parade the homes of many amongst us. Domestic violence. A cancer that continued to grow amongst us. Like hydra it has become, you cut off one head and two more will just grow back up. Who is to blame,the society or the entire world at large.Domestic violence is not just a crime know with a particular region of the world,it is a challenge face by the entire world at large.
It was reported in the year 2018 by the WHO that ,at every 12hours someone somewhere is going through one form of domestic abuse or another. Regardless of the mammoth damages, that this epidemic has continued to cause in different homes all over the world,may never be over emphasized. Global estimates published also by WHO indicate that about 1 in 3 (35%) of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime.
Most of this violence is said to be however, intimate partner violence. Worldwide, almost one third (30%) of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical or sexual violence by their intimate partner in their lifetime.
Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by a male intimate partner.
In April 19 2018,Lagos state recorded 138 domestic violence and sexual cases.The victims in this abuse remain;majorly,women unfortunately.Nevertheless,
Violence can negatively affect women’s physical, mental, sexual, and reproductive health, and may increase the risk of acquiring HIV in some settings.while in others may even lead to a terrible death.
Deep research has said that men are more likely to perpetrate violence if they have low education.A history of child maltreatment, exposure to domestic violence against their mothers, harmful use of alcohol, unequal gender norms including attitudes accepting of violence, leading to dangerous aggression has a lot pointing to ignorant.
Lagos state have recorded 1337 cases of domestic violence documented with the
Authorities.50% of these cases happened in presence of children.On a daily basis children are more expose than ever to domestic violence.As hurtful as it sounds, children from homes with violence are much more likely to experience significant psychological problems short- and long-term.Needless to say that,children who one way or another may have experienced domestic violence often meet the diagnostic criteria for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD) and the effects on their brain are similarly to those experienced by combat veterans.
Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by a male intimate partner.The ones who survived the horrors of domestic violence suffer a long time severe damages,both physical, mental, sexual, and reproductive health, and may even increase the risk of acquiring HIV in some settings.
Men are more likely to perpetrate violence if they have low education.A study has it, that history of child maltreatment, exposure to domestic violence against their mothers, harmful use of alcohol, unequal gender norms including attitudes accepting of violence, and a sense domestic violence in childhood is directly correlated with difficulties in learning, lower IQ scores, deficiencies in visual-motor skills and problems with attention and memory.
Like the regular saying goes "whatever You do now,must echoe in the future".If we care about the future of our children we must learn tolerance and understand that domestic violence can only destroy much more than it can fix.Children of domestic violence are 3 times more likely to repeat the cycle in adulthood, as growing up with domestic violence is the most significant predictor of whether or not someone will be engaged in domestic violence later in life. Always remember that,whatever you do now must echoe in future.If you as a father indulge in this act of violence in the presence of 6 children,know that as a father you have predominantly destroyed the tomorrow for 6 generations unborn.
