Domestic violence

       The unassumed horrors that cascades down upon the society, shinning its  lights, while the rest of us is forced  to hide.To hide behind the anguish of this formidable enemy that continue to parade the homes of many amongst us. Domestic violence. A cancer that continued to grow amongst us. Like  hydra it has become, you cut off one head and two more will just grow back up. Who is to blame,the society or the entire world at large.Domestic violence is not just a crime know with a particular region of the world,it is a challenge face by the entire world at large.
    It was reported in the year 2018 by the WHO that ,at every 12hours someone somewhere is going through one form of domestic abuse or another. Regardless of the mammoth damages, that this epidemic has continued to cause in different homes all over the world,may never be over emphasized. Global estimates published also by WHO indicate that about 1 in 3 (35%) of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime.
Most of this  violence is said to be however, intimate partner violence. Worldwide, almost one third (30%) of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical or sexual violence by their intimate partner in their lifetime.
Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by a male intimate partner.
   In April 19 2018,Lagos state recorded 138 domestic violence and sexual cases.The victims in this abuse remain;majorly,women unfortunately.Nevertheless,
Violence can negatively affect women’s physical, mental, sexual, and reproductive health, and may increase the risk of acquiring HIV in some settings.while in others may even lead to a terrible death.
    Deep research has said that men are more likely to perpetrate violence if they have low education.A history of child maltreatment, exposure to domestic violence against their mothers, harmful use of alcohol, unequal gender norms including attitudes accepting of violence, leading to dangerous aggression has a lot pointing to ignorant.
    Lagos state have recorded 1337 cases of domestic violence documented with the
Authorities.50% of these cases happened in presence of children.On a daily basis children are more expose than ever to domestic violence.As hurtful as it sounds, children from homes with violence are much more likely to experience significant psychological problems short- and long-term.Needless to say that,children who one way or another may have experienced domestic violence often meet the diagnostic criteria for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD) and the effects on their brain are similarly to those experienced by combat veterans.
    Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by a male intimate partner.The ones who survived the horrors of domestic violence suffer a long time severe damages,both  physical, mental, sexual, and reproductive health, and may even increase the risk of acquiring HIV in some settings.
   Men are more likely to perpetrate violence if they have low education.A study has it, that history of child maltreatment, exposure to domestic violence against their mothers, harmful use of alcohol, unequal gender norms including attitudes accepting of violence, and a sense domestic violence in childhood is directly correlated with difficulties in learning, lower IQ scores, deficiencies in visual-motor skills and problems with attention and memory.

   Like the regular saying goes "whatever You do now,must echoe in the future".If we care about the future of our children we must learn tolerance and understand that domestic violence can only destroy much more than it can fix.Children of domestic violence are 3 times more likely to repeat the cycle in adulthood, as growing up with domestic violence is the most significant predictor of whether or not someone will be engaged in domestic violence later in life. Always remember that,whatever you do now must echoe in future.If you as a father indulge in this act of violence in the presence of 6 children,know that as a father you have predominantly destroyed the tomorrow for 6 generations unborn.