15 REASONS YOUR SPOUSE IS
ALREADY YOUR EX.
The reasons why most people experience breakup these reasons are quite simple. The reason is truly simple,most people find themselves in the kind of mess they are in for these fifteen (15) reasons I am about to share with you.
Most people will wonder.
Tell us.
While others would say ok...
But I have tried almost everything in the book and am still in the same mess.
I think I am of that opinions that may have thoughts,that there are relationships that may have been doomed to fail from the onset.
Well, I completely want to agree otherwise but, on the other hand, forgive me if i am a bit hash.
I think...
The best way to settle this will be that.
When you have listen to all the reason I have to give,only then can you draw your conclusions however and see that,not like I was pessimistic...
But...
I just believe that,when you keep doing the wrong thing...
Eventually...
The cradle will fall
So...
Try and listen.
I am sorry if this things I will be mentioning May bruise your ego.
But.
I think it's for the best...
It needs to be said.
1. DEFINITION : Most people are in a relationship today out of assumptions. I mean you meet this guy you like or this lady you like, and you guys have been dating for 3 years now and you still don't know!
Hello...
You don't know what?
You guys are suppose to have define whatever it is that you doing.
Is it possible that you leave your house and tell people you are coming and you get to the main road and stop a cab,only to ask the driver to take you to "any where".
Is that even possible.
That will be MADNESS...
Don't you think...
I think it means you both don't even know what you are doing, and that's why you not seeing any headway.
It's important that you know this,you find a girl or a guy and you love her and he loves you.
As a guy or lady straight up,define whatever it is that you having. When you find a serious person you would know.
Try to make sense of it..
Why would I want to be around someone that don't know what he or she is doing,no one wants to be with a redundant.you have to be able to define and know what you want as a lady or as a man.
2. TAKING YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED : No one wants to be taken for granted in a relationship,no one I promise you.
If you love someone,you expect that your opinion should count in their life. When you disrespect your lady or your man,you've already taken your spouse for granted.
By disrespect...
I mean...
When you make her feel like she is nothing...
Some would even say...
"With or without you I will exist".
Hell yes!
Of course you will...
But.
Its bad,terribly bad to say these words,or make you spouse feel useless.
Most men don't like to be taken for granted and no woman as well wants her lover to take her for granted either. If you love your spouse,it simply means, both of you are important to yourselves so,you are expected to let it show for each other.
Everything you tell each other, should be of value to each other.
If you want your relationship to work, never take your spouse for granted.
3. COMPARISM : Most people are guilty of this,why should you compare your spouse. If you are guilty of this,then you have to stop it this instance.
If you don't, she is going to leave you or he is going to leave you.
Why in the name of God a we together if you are going to be comparing me with other people out there.
Never compare your spouse,you must know that it amputates your spouse's spirit and it's not good at all.
Know this,here and now.
You can never,will never be happy if you can not be contempted with what you've got.
Look around you.
You know why people fail in their marriages,it's because they are not contempted.
You have to be always thankful.
Appreciate what you have.
at all times.
4. ARROGANCE : Arrogance is a disease and it has cure,it is humility. Some people can be so arrogant to the point where they offend their partners and they still expect their spouse to say sorry. Sorry is a medicine that prevents further damage.
You have to work on yourself.
Its a problem.
You know it.
Trust me,it's a very gigantic,ginormous problem.
Pride is a very terrible thing in a relationship,why would you be too proud when you are wrong. If you are guilty of this,it's like a cancer,if you don't change and learn how to say sorry.
You may soon be counting alone "The 6 degrees of separation".
It won't change your name,if you say "Sorry" sometime
It won't.
It will only make you look mature,instead.
5. ANGER : Anger is a very terrible thing.Let me tell you what anger brings to your relationship.Anger brings about insecurity both from the guy or the lady.When your spouse,especially the lady,maybe.
Perhaps,she is no longer comfortable with you because of your anger issues.
Or she becomes afraid of you, she thinks what happens when you guys are alone and she offends you,what happens.
Believe me.
You do not want her asking herself that.
Because once she does.
Just know...
That the end has come.
Same thing goes for ladies,no man want an angry woman for keeps. There are ladies that once they are angry,suddenly it become a redmoon and she begins to destroy things,her spouse's properties and stuff.
Some...
Would vibrate and say some nasty things that can not be taken back.
No man can endure such madness for long.
May be a Marlian.
Lol...
I don't think any man can,it means you are uncontrollable,what if his family or friends are around and you begin to manifest that kind of rage.
Me...
I will kneel down...
As a friend.
I will beg my friend to leave such insanity.
So anger is bad,if you are the angry type learn to control your anger.
Self-control,is important. .
No matter what.
6.JEALOUSY : Jealousy is pretty much a normal thing,when you love someone you are bound to find yourself feeling jealous,especially when you see them around an opposite sex.
Again...
This is where Self Control come to play .There are people that can not control their jealousy. Jealousy,if not control can consume you to the point where,it becomes depressing, and thats bad.
I think jealousy is just as a result of lack of trust and insecurity.
Common...
You have to trust your spouse.
Jealousy is cold.
I think it's evil.
If you are the really jealous type,you have to control it,if not! It can ruine your beautiful relationship.
So...
Stop it right.
Jealousy is bad.
7. VIOLENCE : This is the heart of the matter,if you are the violent type you have to stop. If you are the type that hit your partner please stop. Its a dangerous game,it's like playing with fire.
No one should tolerate an abusive partner.
Common.
Violence is not the best solution to settling any differences.
You know.
You can be jailed for that.
Domestic violence is wrong,is not hygenic for any relationship,be it the man or the woman,it's wrong.
8. UNAPPRECIATED : The best way to value your spouse is by appreciation,you have to be practical about it. You have to be able to show her or him that you appreciate whatever it is.
Maybe a moment...
A gift.
No matter how little.
Just appreciate.
You know why?
It makes your spouse feel loved,it gives peace of mind too.
If you don't do this.
OYO!
Is your case.
8.GREED/STINGY : This one is for the men,if you are the greedy and the stingy type please just know that,perhaps it's the reason your EX left and this one might too.
If you love someone,you should be able to shower her with some gifts, don't be a stingy ass.
Women hate men that are stingy.
You have to change your pattern if you know you are like that.
Please.
Change.
No woman is going to want to end up with you knowing that you are greedy and stingy at the same time.
Even if I have never heard this words before and I happen to be hearing it for the first time,I think it still sounds really bad.
9.CHEATING : If you are the cheating type and you think your spouse don't know,believe me she does or he does.May be she loves you more than been right, it's no guarantee sir,it's no guarantee ma'am.
When she leave you or he leaves,you are going to regrete it.
Unfaithfulness is a very terrible thing,it destroys any good thing it comes in contact with,that why you have to be very careful.
If not.
You might end up living your entire life in regrete...
I promise you.
10. UNROMANTIC: If you are the stiff type please,go and learn. Women or guys love ramance,you dont have to be a stiffed ass all the time.
Be romantic and caring.Show your spouse some care,it will give them some sense of belonging.
Be romantic once in a while and you will see how much your partner can open up to you.
I know .
Some people are smiling..
Just be free.
Especially around your woman or man. These are the things that makes a woman to be madly in love with a guy.
The feeling is the same with a guys too.
If you don't know it.
Learn it...
Don't rush it...
Little by little...
You will find it.
Just care for her.
And things will change.
11.INSENSITIVITY : There are spouse that are so insensitive to one another's feelings. There are guys that are really not emotional,they hardly show feelings.
This in particular has nothing to do with only guys,there are some ladies too that are really insensitive.
You have to listen...
Listen to your man or woman..
When you listen.
You are half way there already.
Some people just act,without even considering there spouse's feelings or emotions. They become a loosed Canon when they are angry and they seems to say some deep hurtful things to their spouse because they are angry.
Some would not even know when something is wrong with their woman or man.
From the voice alone..
You should know...
Know when something is wrong.
I hope i am communicating?
Like I said earlier.
One most learn to control his anger.
There are things,that people would say to each other in a relationship that automatically reduces the intergrity of that relationship.
12.SELFLESSNESS : This is a great virtue to have,if you don't have this then,what do you people have. Putting other people's need before your,like putting you spouse's needs before yours.
I think action speaks louder than voice. I think stuffs like this is call sacrifice,this are the things worth holding on to in a relationship.
Stuffs like this can make anyone,lady or man enter a life time commitment...
Without thinking twice.
That kind of thing...
That virtue is a wife material spoter...
A husband material spoter...
That a point and kill thing.
Forgive my humour.
But...
Love is about sacrifice,it's sometimes about discomforting yourself for others, and that is why this next one should be part of the foundation blocks you build your relationships on.
14.PATIENCE : In relationship, any kind of relationship at all,whether it's an intimate one or a casual one. One thing is always certain,patience.
All through our lives,this will be constantly tested. Patience defines us and it tell us the kind of stuffs we are made of...
It shows character..
Yes..
It does and you know it.
One of the most tested virtues of any relationship is patience. Sometimes,in relationship life will throw all sorts of ugly things your way,it is your patience that will help you out.
Patience is not only tested by your spouse,it will be tested by life itself. So when all is said,patient will be tested.
When things begin to seems rough in your relationships or marriages,just try and learn to understand that it's just for some time,it will be better.
Patience is a character that truly separate a man from a boy, a girl from a woman. You don't have to react to every mistake.
No one is perfect,you must have that at the back of your mind and if you have a relationship where there is no quarrel please leave...
Look for another one.
It's like in farming,for a soil to be really fertile you have to find some insects on it,if there are not any,please leave,because there is nothing you plant there that will actually grow well or yield anything reasonable.
Please...
Listen...
And know that everything we have mentioned...
Can only make your relationship flourish.
15. NAGGING : I have seen men that naggs as I have also come across countless of women that naggs too.
Nagging is one thing that has caused major issues in relationships.
Annoying...
I must tell you.
I know most people know exactly what I am talking about.
If you nag...
That attitude can drive one nuts...
It requires serious patience.
Statistic has it that 70 - 80% of men or women can not stand nagging partner,especially,when they have never seen it before. If you are the nagging type please stop,whether you are a guy or a lady.Please stop,this attitude can make your spouse become your EX.
If you know you enjoyed this write-up...
I am tempted to want it to go above just enjoying the write-up.
I think I will rather prefer...
if you don't enjoy the write-up...
But change and keep your spouse instead.
Don't mind me..
Just kidding with you.
I will really want you to love it to the point of changing your perceptions about somethings in your relationships.
I think that will be more fullfilling for me.
Please...
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