Words to be unspoken.

My neighbors are at it again, they are at each other's throats again.The words they use on one another can  set almost anything on ablaze. The venomous nature of words they both used on each other shows no mercy at all; as it constantly  tears the walls of  Jericho. None of them was holding back any string of muscles as they both went whole 9 yards on each other. it was not a pleasant sight I imagined, it was  indeed battlefield. No one can sleep under such a hot conditions, so I was forced to listen. After listening for a while, I noticed the horrendous nature of the insults my neighbor and his wife rained  upon  other, but like Hiroshima and Nakazaki my neighbor's wife was quick drop a bomb in the form of a word that almost immediately changed face of the conflict, no one saw it coming,it was unthinkable. In her own very words she said "I am only concern about money you waste on them,I know no lady out there can enjoy that broomstic of a penis of yours" that was the stroke that broke the camel's back . Any man who hear what she said to her husband, May never forgive her on behalf of all the men. Personally, I think she took it too far; for she has  said the unthinkable. No woman should use such a word on a person you claim to love. What she said immediately brought silence upon the earth, I could almost envisaged the predicament of the man at this time, he must be in  shock, a lot of things going through his mind at the moment. From the silence,He never saw that one coming,never knew she was capable of saying such a thing. I think the only saving grace the Man had was that it all happened within the confines of their bedroom. The next thing I heard the man said was “ this is the end of both of us” as the door bangs to a  close.

Regardless of anything, there  are words meant to be unspoken, for no reason should go that far as to use things like this on another person, especially with somebody you share so much intimacy with, someone you love. Words can almost reduce something so good to nothing and can make something so bad look good, In between is a choice. There will always be conflict in relationships, but know this, how you handle it is what makes you a better person. Two wrongs can never make a right. Sometimes It is the ability to not do that makes one a better person. Trying to inflict pains with words on one another whenever  there is conflicts in a relationship is mostly the final recipe for ending any relationship. Just like my neighbor, the both of them didn't have to  say such terrible thing to each other, they were both talking and none of them was listening, none of  them was communicating . None of them made any efforts  to address the problem instead, they were both hell bent on seeing each other in pains. The only thing they got right was to not let the conflict end up in physicality. The Man left the room when he had enough, perhaps he should have left long before he did. For taking so much only to walk away, I think he should be commended, I think he deserves a medal. Below are the words that can almost reduce any good relationship to nothing. Words like the ones below.

            WORDS COUPLES  SHOULD NEVER USE  DURING CONFLICT

1. I regret the day I met you
2. I hate you
3. I wonder how I ended up with a man like you
4. You are the most useless man I have ever seen
5. Shame on you
6. You are a wicked man
7. Weak man
8. Horrible man
9. Casanova
10. Drunkard
11. In spite my efforts to manage your small dick
12. Terrible woman
13. Bitch
14. Fuck yourself
15. Shameless he goat

Happiness is love.

The rate at which many people suffer from unhappiness in their relationships these days, is nothing but alarming. From one  severe emotional  pain of  stress to another. From one anxiety problem to another, all kinds of depression and disatisfaction issues that engulf many relationships and marriages today. If care is not taken, one maybe tempted to say that ,most of these problems that seems to be rampant amongs relationships today maybe self inflicted.

Regardless of the facts that, most women, perhaps men too; these days,think they are smart to have chosen  wealth over happiness . Smart, yeah! Smart alright! But only in reverse. Whatever choices you’ve made today, know it will  deffinatly echoe  in  your tomorrow . Many women today, for one reason or another have  sacrificed happiness for comfort, happiness for luxury, happiness for wealth. Worst still, men are also victims of this formidable  cancer. Unless people  come to the  complete realization that, choosing a life partner has everything to do with the abilities to be honest with one’s  self. The ability to be brutally honest with yourself, beyond any equivocations . People must  know that, the value of happiness far outweighs  the value of wealth. It is common reality to say that, in the matters of the heart, the interest of  happiness should come first above  other things. We all  have rights as human beings to  love whoever makes us happy. We must  love, not because of  perfection,but to compliment one another or complete one another. More realistic to say that, it shouldn't be  because you need this very person but, for the singular reason that this person needs you. If this is the only reason for love. Well,I think this reason  is far enough.

Assumption I heard is the mother of all fuckups. Even as many  people already  find it completely ridiculous to think, that as a woman or as a man, If you have one way or another dumped the love of your life for material love or luxury, please note, that you may have lost your true path in life. Love must always come first in all we do. Even though there many other  reasons why relationships hit the rock today,most ladies would  say " he was not looking ready" while others May say  "He  was too broke for me" Well, I have just a few words of advice for you. Most women that  run rampage, firing  in all cylinders,only to get trapped in a dilemma  between the devil and the deep blue sea, stocked with a man whom with all his money and wealth can not make them happy . Moreso,there men who have deliberately refused to settle down with the person they know that they  love, because of class " she is no longer my level" I often  heard many them say .True they say “Money can’t buy love”. Eventually, most men or women often come to the regret and  realize  that, happiness outweighs wealth or luxury in life, most  especially when you are trapped between making a life time decision in commitments, like marriage.

The inabilities  for many people to not see or just pretend  to not know the true meaning of  happiness; makes it so hard to chew down to the bones. Many of them who support such hypocracy often   fallen  victims because of their over ambitiousness, which may have in turn affected their perceptions about life .  Life on the other hand  can be difficult at times, capable  of throwing  all sorts of rubbish at one. Needless to say that, one way or another bad experiences May be to blame in some occassion,reasons responsible for many peoples poor sense judgements today . Perhaps you have witness the highest level of disappointments in life or your up bringing may be poor . It is  not a bad thing to want  something good for yourself. Perhaps, you have witness the depth of poverty while growing up as a child and you know what it truly means to lack the good thing of  life. Or maybe, you have seen the true face of hardship in your life, and maybe you never  want to end up in that same pit as your sister or your friend. One can understand but, one may not necessarily be a  carpenter to know a bad chair.

Many research has proven that, most men often say they were abandoned because their Ex thought they would never make it in life .While other say that their Ex clearly told them that they couldn’t wait any longer. While most women also complaine about there men leaving them because they felt they were below the belt in terms of their educational standards .

 Regardless of anything, love don’t have To be perfect, it just need to be honest, it takes a honest love to make a life time commitment. Now
When you truly find a gentleman or a wonderful lady that for no reason just  adores you, and is willing to carry you along wherever, please make yourself comfortable, because you have made the right choice. Trust me when I say that , trials would come but, the joy of happiness will always see you through. Remember, that your happiness is first above any other, also remember that, the worst fate that could befall anyone is, to end up in a forever relationship and not be in love with the person , there is no posterity in that. The choice is always for  you and you alone to take. Remember that, your happiness is paramount to your well being.